What will make your man pull away? Well if you are doing these things in a relationship, it is only a matter of time before your he starts to get distant and not available for you. What will make it worse is that when you see your partner withdrawing or losing interest in the relationship, you become even desperate and start to cling – that will make your man pull away for sure.
So are you someone who’s always texting, calling and emailing your partner even if you know he is busy? Do you want to see your partner all the time and have no life outside of the relationship? If a text or call doesn’t come when you expect it do you start to wonder what is wrong and get anxious about your relationship? This behavior will inevitably ruin your relationship and make your man pull away. The good news is that if you are aware of the behaviors that will turn a guy off, you can fix it.
8 Ways You Are Sabotaging Your Relationships – What Will Make Him Pull Away
Below are the things that you may be doing that will cause your man to pull away. If you are doing any of these behaviors, you are sabotaging your relationship. Stop doing them and see what happens.
1 .You Are Being Needy
If you are in any way being clingy or needy, this is a sure fire way to make your man pull away and grow distant in the relationship. Most men can smell desperation from a mile away and will end up avoiding you at all costs. Are you getting upset if he does not call you? Are you trying to monopolize all his time? Do you wait for him to make all the plans and you do whatever he wants?
If you feel lonely without him is because you don’t have anything to do besides hanging out with him – don’t be that girl! Have your own life and make him want to spend more time with you. Focus on you and your life and make him a part of it, not all of it.
2. You Are Interrogating Him
When you see him after some time apart, do you play 20 questions? What did you do? Who were you with? etc etc. Men and women have different communication styles and typically women love all the details – men don’t. And this line of questioning will make him feel like he is being monitored and will make you look insecure.
It would be better to talk about your own life and experiences and give him room to open up when he is ready. Be interested in his life but don’t dig for all the details. If he has gone out with his friends ask him if he had a good time and leave it at that. He will let you know what he wants you to know and will not feel pressured if its on his own terms.
3. You Have a Lack of Trust
Solid relationships are built and developed on trust and reliability. Give your partner the benefit of doubt; if he says he is busy, believe it. Don’t question it, don’t be mad. Don’t start to panic that he is cheating if he gets a new friend on Facebook or he gets a text. This type of behavior is destructive to a relationship. If he has given you reasons to not trust him, then you may wish to re-consider the relationship anyway. But if you are making up reasons in your own mind, you need to stop that line of thinking before you push him away for good.
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4. You Are Withdrawing Sex
If you have already been intimate with him and then you stop and start playing games, he will be frustrated with you quickly. This will only make him feel rejected and will confuse him. It will make your man pull away and even see other women as more attractive to him. If he is enjoying physical contact with you then work on building that with him. Make him look forward to it, make him want you. By denying him when you have already been intimate is a surefire way for him to start seeking that affection from someone who is willing to be his partner and who shows him he is wanted.
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5. You Are Chasing Him
Are you the one calling him, texting him, following up with him? Men are natural hunters when it comes to dating and prefer to be the ones pursuing rather than to be the one’s pursued. They want to wine and dine you, plan dates and make YOU feel special. If you are the one doing all the work, they don’t get the opportunity and will lose interest in you.
Alternatively, they will get lazy if you are the one planning everything. It shifts the relationship dynamic and after a while, you will not even know if he is really that into you. Give him the chance to pursue you, let him plan some time together. Don’t be his doormat because all that will happen is that he will step all over you and it will make your man pull away.
6. You Are Dominating Him
Just like I mentioned above, men naturally want to be the alpha male in life and they want to feel that they are the providers. Most guys have accepted that you have your own job and your own career, and maybe you even make more money than them. They are entirely chill with that because they also know you’ll agree to buy the meal from time to time. However, if you are the one “wearing the pants” in the relationship, in too aggressive of a manner, it’s not something he’s going to like.
If you are too dominant or “big” of a personality, it can intimidate him, make him feel inferior and make him want to chase after someone who makes him feel more like the man in the relationship. Some women have been dumped because they dominated the relationship so much their guy did not feel needed. I am not saying be completely submissive but just ease up and let him take the lead sometimes, let him be your man, let him be your HERO.
The easiest way to trigger his hero instinct is to translate your desires into a language that speaks to his natural drive to be a provider. His desire to serve, love, and protect. The desire to be someone’s hero.
7. You Are Not Giving Him Space
If you notice that he is becoming distant and you start to act needy, his red flag will instantly appear in his head warning him that he could be losing his freedom and he will instinctively pull away from you.
So how do your resist not grasping onto what you fear you may be losing? You need to do the opposite of what you want to do and just pull back, give him space, and focus on yourself. If you continue to be being desperate for his love and affection he will push you away. Men do not like feeling the pressure of having to fill all your needs all the time. Show him that you can function without him and turn things around.
8. You Are Moving Too Fast
You’re looking at wedding dresses while he’s freaking out that you left you toothbrush at his place. If this is the case, you are probably not on the same page and if you try to force it or push it, he will bolt. He already feels the pressure of being in a relationship and what that means to him right now versus what he thinks it’s supposed to mean.
Any pressure additional pressure you put on him to hurry up his feelings is going to make your man pull away, especially if he’s not experienced and able to handle that type of stress. Slow it down and take your lead from him. Men usually take a lot longer to “get there”. Keep those wedding magazines out of sight until he proposes!
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Hopefully this has shown you to not over depend on your partner. Learn to make decisions and do things by yourself – have your own life outside of your romantic relationship. Don’t depend on your partner to fulfill all your needs and don’t think that you can fulfill his. Be strong, be independent but at the same time, show your partner affection and make him feel WANTED without being clingy.
If you feel your man pulling away or becoming distant the best thing to do is NOTHING – ride it out – stay positive – do your own thing and let him miss you. Once he does, he will be all in. Then just send this simple text and he is yours.